My MIL offered to stay with Val overnight if we wanted to let her cry it out while we stayed somewhere we couldn’t hear.
Every morning between 4 and 5 a.m., I am so tempted. One of T’s colleagues says she did it and is soooo glad she did. Another friend said “babies are resilient, she’ll be fine.” Dr. Weissbluth recommends it. My in-laws support it. Thanks to the sleep deprivation, it’s getting harder and harder for me to a) think, b) keep my cool… and my A-exams start Monday…
But… can I bear the thought of her crying to sleep every night for a week??? That’s how long it took T’s colleague. Would I/we be able to refrain from going in to her? Because the only way it would work would be if we did not give in. Give in once and you’re worse off than before, right? Would it destroy her faith in humankind? I was telling my MIL about the attachment theory reasons against CIO, and she said “well I guess we traumatized our kids then, and so did every other parent in our generation.” Well, maybe ya did. T’s younger sister has been completely estranged from them for years, but I didn’t point that out. There are a lot of other factors in that dynamic but all I’m saying is CIO might have gotten them off on the wrong foot in the beginning.
Please weigh in!!!