Slow Time is for Thinking

It’s a slow day at work; last week I even resorted to sifting through stacks of paper that have accumulated over the past 2.75 years on our shared desk and recycling most of it (the most exciting find was my daughter’s vaccination records, which I thought we had lost).

So I’ve been reading… Harry Potter memes, national news, and old blog archives from current and former team members here. I feel like I’m in this quest to figure out what it all means – our time here, to be specific – what we’re supposed to be doing or accomplishing – and how will we know when it’s time to move on?

We signed up for five years, but I feel like our hearts have never been fully given over to life and work here. It’s always been a bit tentative, a bit hesitant, a bit wondering if this is really the right fit for us. Always holding back like a bad boyfriend (the one who will only walk you halfway home after a date, who gives you a fucking cactus for Valentine’s Day). We’ve never really fallen in love with this place, but then I think we never really tried either.

Gimli says there are three things that would make him want to end our term early: 1) having to deal too much with this one department at HQ that he hates, 2) Bogota becoming unbearable, and 3) a job opportunity opening up in Albania. I’m on board with that, for sure… part of me is still grieving Shqiperia. And while Bogotá is growing on me, it’s still an enormous polluted city of over 8 million (mostly very rude) people. The work itself, and the organization itself, I do care about, though. HQ doesn’t bother me. But I’m the kind of person who can’t really enjoy watching a movie if the person I’m with isn’t enjoying it.

So I just realized that my last blog post was about this exact same thing. Circling around to the same thoughts and questions. I have an appointment tomorrow afternoon to see a family psychologist. I’m not in crisis, but I feel like I need help.


4 Responses to “Slow Time is for Thinking”

  1. happygoluckytireegal Says:

    I hope you get to return to Albania. Bogota sounds like a very large stinky irritating place. I hope you get some help / hope / ideas from the psychologist – or are able to use it as a venting / sorting out time.

  2. Noemi James Says:

    “But I’m the kind of person who can’t really enjoy watching a movie if the person I’m with isn’t enjoying it.” <–This! A million times this!

    I hope you both figure out where you want to be, or an opportunity presents itself that feels right for your family. It must be hard not to like where you are living. I have my qualms with SF, but I know I'm going to live here forever and for the most part I'm okay with that.

  3. Mel Says:

    I hope that the visit to the psychologist brings peace of heart. And perhaps also the ability to find the answers inside of yourself.

  4. Rachel Says:

    I’m way behind on my blog reading, but I hope you are in a better place now.

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